“Since debate is approached as a zero-sum game, it is hard for the participants in the debate to really listen to the opposition. In fact, the word “opponent” is problematic because of this very reason. If we are really about truth-seeking, then we should be able to listen and hear the other side. This means listening, taking notes, asking questions for clarification, considering angles, and engaging in meditation on the points that have been made.”
I didn’t even know “religious debate” was a thing until I was grown (probably after meeting you, actually), but this section still resonated. Being taught there was no truth but “our truth”, we weren’t to listen to the other side. Were we even supposed to give them a chance to talk? I don’t think so - we just preached at them. If you couldn’t see it “our way” you were either stupid or rebellious.
“Since debate is approached as a zero-sum game, it is hard for the participants in the debate to really listen to the opposition. In fact, the word “opponent” is problematic because of this very reason. If we are really about truth-seeking, then we should be able to listen and hear the other side. This means listening, taking notes, asking questions for clarification, considering angles, and engaging in meditation on the points that have been made.”
I didn’t even know “religious debate” was a thing until I was grown (probably after meeting you, actually), but this section still resonated. Being taught there was no truth but “our truth”, we weren’t to listen to the other side. Were we even supposed to give them a chance to talk? I don’t think so - we just preached at them. If you couldn’t see it “our way” you were either stupid or rebellious.